Debbie Sue Goodman

performs a one-woman
comedy show based on her
best selling book, Still Single,
which includes many
humorous and heartwarming
stories about Debbie's life.

Debbie is an actress,lyricist,
vocalist, and impressionist;
and has appeared in many
comedy clubs, theaters, charity
events and cable TV shows.
Debbie has also made
numerous guest appearances
on Chicago TV & radio
stations, author appearances
and book signings.

Red Carpet Readers are
encouraged to write Debbie
with dating questions for
assistance.
send emails with dating questions to
debbie@redcarpetconciergeofchicago.com
Dear Debbie Sue,

I enjoyed reading your two books. I can relate to
some of the dating stories you wrote about. I would
appreciate any advice you can give me. I'm in my
late 30's and dating a man in his late 50's. He has a
23 yr old son. I met him through an online dating
service. I am divorced with no children. We went out
to dinner on the first date and talked for several
hours. Our second date we went to dinner and a
movie. I enjoy his company. He calls me everyday
to say hello. He now asked me to go away with him
next month to visit his son who lives out of state. He
invited me for a weekend trip. Should I go? Is it too
soon to go away with him? I hardly know him. I
appreciate any advice.

All the best,

Cindy


Dear Cindy,

Thanks for writing. It appears this man is rushing
things a bit. I totally understand why you're hesitant
to go away with him at this time. You've only gone
on a couple of dates and now he's asking you to go
away with him? It is too soon. You said, you "hardly
know him," and you don't. You sound like you enjoy
his company and you would like to get to know him.
That is exactly what you should tell him. That you
enjoy his company and would like to get to know
him, here, and not in another state. If he is
interested, he'll respect your decision and he'll
understand.

Good luck to you,

Debbie Sue
Dear Debbie Sue.. I've seen your comedy show and
I loved it! I read your books- they were fun to read! I
have a question, I appreciate your advice. I'm a
widow and was married for over 30 years. Since I
lost my husband 2 years ago, I haven't dated
anyone. But, now I feel it's time to start. My family
has told me to move on and I joined a senior group.
They meet for breakfast and there are some
widowed men there.

One of them, asked me a on a date to breakfast the
following weekend. He asked me out and told me he
had a two for one coupon for the restaurant. He
wanted to split the cost of the one breakfast. He
asked me to split the cost of the gasoline to pick me
up at my home. After we ate, he told me he wants to
go to dinner with me again and a movie. He wants
to split the cost of the movie! Should I go out with
him again? I gave him some money for breakfast
and his gasoline. Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned but
wondered if this is how a date is nowadays?

Thanks again,

Louise

Dear Louise,

Thanks for writing. I am old-fashioned too. Clearly,
this man is not looking to date someone. He is not a
gentleman. He should have told you from the start
that he wants to go Dutch treat on the date. He isn't
looking for a girlfriend or a wife. It sounds like he
wants a friend only. If you enjoy his company and
want to stay his friend than go out again. If you go to
dinner and he asks what you would like for dessert-
tell him, "A banana split!"

Good luck to you,

Debbie Sue
...from "Still Dating"

Pick a Winner
I didn’t give up very quickly. I still tried to find
someone special in the grocery store. On this day, I
saw someone waiting for his number to be called at
the “fish” counter. I started to talk to him. He was
wiping his nose with his hand. I thought he may
have had a cold, but he didn’t sound like he did. He
told me he was a vegetarian. He was very skinny. I
joked around with him and told him that I was a
good cook and could help him, “put some meat on
his bones.” Then he started to put his index finger
into one nostril, and then started picking at his nose.
I never saw anyone do that while I was talking to
them.

He ordered his fish and told me that he had a nice
time talking to me and asked me if I was single. Of
course, I replied “yes” and he asked me out to
dinner. I told him that we could meet somewhere. I
asked him if he had a cold. He said he didn’t and
looked at me with a strange look, like he didn’t know
why I would ask that question. I thought he had a
nervous habit and he would stop after we went out
together. We both decided to meet the following
evening in a restaurant in an area shopping mall.

We met there and he immediately started picking
his nose again. The restaurant was a cafeteria style,
it had a place to order and you seat yourself. We
both ordered a sandwich and sat at a corner table.
We talked for a minute before the food arrived. My
date kept picking his nose with different fingers. I
was losing my appetite from watching him. He was
very friendly and attractive but he wouldn’t stop
touching his nose. Finally, the food arrived and he
stopped for a few minutes. After we got through
eating our sandwiches, he continued to pick his
nose. He asked me if I would like to have some
dessert. He asked me to follow him up to the counter
and look at the desserts. He said, “Get anything you
like.” I said, “No, that’s okay, you PICK.”

Impeccably Clean
I dated this sweet man who liked the health club for
almost two months. I liked the way he dressed. He
was fun to be with. We went out for a few weeks
before he invited me to his home. He lived in a nice
condo not too far from my home. We picked up
some dinner and rented a movie. I liked his condo.
It was very neat. He said he was a “neat freak.” I
never saw another man’s home that was that clean.
It looked like he had a maid everyday. I found out
why it was so clean.

He invited me to spend the following weekend at his
condo. He knew I liked to cook. He wanted a home
cooked meal made by me for a change. I asked,
“What do you mean?” He said, “During the week I
sponge dinners off of my mom. I go to her place. I
don’t know how to cook.” He had some leftovers and
condiments in his refrigerator.

He said, “My mom hasn’t gone grocery shopping yet.
She was busy this week.” Confused I asked, “Your
mom? Don’t you buy your own groceries?” He said,
“No, never. My mom buys them for me.” I was very
surprised at what he said.

The following weekend I went grocery shopping and
was ready to cook him a wonderful dinner. I had an
armful of groceries. I got to the door of his condo
and heard a noise inside. Suddenly, his mom
walked out the door! She said, “Hello, come on in, I
was just leaving. I cleaned everything. I filled the
refrigerator, washed the dishes and washed the
laundry.” I said, “You did all that?” She nodded and
then she left.

I walked in and saw how clean everything was. I
couldn’t believe I was dating a man who had his
mom clean his condo. She washed his dishes,
bought his groceries and vacuumed all the rooms. I
couldn’t believe what I saw next. All his laundry was
washed and folded and laying on his bed! His mom
washed his underwear!

I had to leave. I was about to put all the groceries I
bought in his refrigerator before I left, when the door
opened. He walked in and said, “Hi, I’m home. What
are we having for dinner?” I said, “I got here a few
minutes early and ran into your mom. She shopped
for you, cleaned everything and washed your
laundry.” He said, “Good! I’m glad it’s done.” I asked,
“You let her wash your LAUNDRY?”

He said with a surprised tone, “Well, YOU weren’t
here, so who else was
going to do it?” I had only ONE response to that
question. I opened his
front door, walked out and said, “Goodbye …”

Too Many Holes!
The following night I stayed at his apartment and I
had a fun idea. I decided to wear some pretty
lingerie that I brought with me. After he got ready for
bed, I got ready. I came out of the bathroom in a
pretty silk negligee. He was excited! He said, “Wow,
look at that!” I said, “I thought you might like this
outfit.”

I lay down next to him and he looked closely at what
I was wearing. He said, “I think you have to take this
back, it’s defective!” I said, “Why?” He said, “It has
HOLES all over it and you can see right through it.”  
NO Touchy NO Feely
On our third date I fell in love with the sweet, shy
man. Little did I know he was not “into” showing
affection of any kind. I was hoping he would
change. He told me he never made love to a
woman before. We spent a few weeks dating. ALL
we did was go to dinner and to movies. He was not a
romantic guy. He finally invited me to spend a
weekend with him. I was very happy to have some
“alone” time with him. The first night I stayed at his
apartment, his sister called very early in the morning
the next day. It was eight o’ clock in the morning on
Sunday.

He answered the phone and said, “No, it’s not too
early at all. NO, you’re not interrupting anything at
all.” I thought to myself, what could she possibly be
interrupting?

We spent the day taking a long car ride and going to
lunch. We rented several movies. We ordered a
pizza. We stayed up late watching television.

Let’s Play Ball
I spent another weekend with him. I had a plan for
my shy guy. He liked to watch sporting events on
television. His favorite sport was football. He was on
a team and he played once a month. I knew where
his outfit was in his closet.

One night when we got home from dinner, I decided
to try something fun. He was in the living room
watching a movie. I went into his closet and put on
his football gear. I put on his shirt with the shoulder
pads, pants with the knee pads and the helmet.
Then, I put on a pair of his favorite high heels. I
grabbed the football and I walked slowly into the
living room. The uniform was so heavy. I couldn’t
walk too fast in my high heels.

I whispered, “Sweetie, look over here.” He looked up
and said, “Hey, that’s a great idea!” I said, “I thought
you might like this idea!” He yelled, “Come on, let’s
go outside! I’ll teach you how to play!” I followed
him outside and thought to myself, that’s not exactly
what I had in mind …

The Bus Boys
I couldn’t believe the behavior of my last date. He
was very immature. I was always a big tipper. My
philosophy is that when you go into a restaurant and
someone is taking good care of you, they deserve a
big tip. I am certainly having a hard time finding Mr.
Right.

I realized that if all else fails I can always count on
the bus boys in all my area restaurants. They all love
me! They cater to my every need. As soon as I walk
in and I’m seated they come running over to the
table. They refill my water, I hand them a dollar.
They take the plates away, I hand a couple more
dollars. They bring me a doggie bag, I hand them
some more money. Yes, I’m proud to admit, the bus
boys love me for my big
TIP’S!

Few Words
I kept meeting the same kind of men in the
bookstores. After work during the dinner hour, I went
to another one to hang around the magazines “for
men” section. I stood by the “hot rod” and “computer”
magazines. There were a lot of men there. I spotted
one guy in jeans and a red t-shirt that looked cute.
He was tall, but not very thin. I liked the way he
looked. He wore nice glasses. I walked up to him. He
said, “Hello.” He was a man of few words. I asked him
a few questions. He would answer with one word
only. He smiled a lot but had very little to say. He
motioned to me and pointed to a restaurant next to
the bookstore. I asked him if he wanted to go in
there and have something to eat. He smiled and
nodded his head up and down and said, “Okay.” I
was wondering why he wasn’t talking. He just kept
smiling. I thought he was nervous and extremely shy.

We went into the restaurant. When the waitress
came over to the table, I ordered my food. He
opened the menu and pointed to what he wanted to
order. I still thought he was just quiet and didn’t
know what to say. He kept smiling.

We ate dinner. I talked to him, and he didn’t say too
much. He shook his head up and down. After we ate,
he paid the bill. We walked toward the door to leave
the restaurant. I asked him another question. I said,
“Where would you like to go now?” I finally got an
answer from him. He said, “How about a hotel room?”